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25 Ways to Make Your Middle Schooler’s Day

Sometimes, it's the little things that show our kids we truly are on their side. How will you choose to make your middle schooler's day today?


Watching our kids grow up is fun. Usually, right?

They become more aware of their surroundings. They interact with their world and the people around them. Learn new skills, become more capable. Need us less, want us more. Want us less, need us more!

Sure, leaving behind some of the cuteness can be bittersweet. The little foibles, endearing habits, and speech quirks that disappear will be missed.

But all in all, growing up is what they were born for. It’s good. It’s right.

Yet it can also be rough. Take the pre-teen or middle school years, for instance. The kids are a bit awkward and insecure. Trying to find their way. Kind of unsure of themselves. They need to know that we’re here for them. That we’ve got their backs. That even when they think the rest of the world is against them, we are for them.

Oh, being the parent of these maturing young people can be rough too! We have to dig in our heels, set the standard and stick to it. In the midst of all that, I appreciate this article on What to Do About Disrespectful Kids from Little Earthling Blog. It’s easy to get caught up in being against a lot of stuff – attitudes, language, laziness, back-talk – that we neglect the more pleasant and recognizable demonstrations that we are on their side.


Sometimes, it’s the little things that say or show that the best. So here’s a list of fun things you can do that just might make your middle schooler’s day.


Sometimes, it's the little things that show our kids we truly are on their side. How will you choose to make your middle schooler's day today?


Those of you familiar with the concept of love languages (Amazon affiliate link) may recognize that your child will appreciate some of these suggestions more than others. That’s great; do those things more often. But don’t avoid the other ideas altogether just because they aren’t the favorites.


25 Ways to Make Your Middle Schooler’s Day


Stick a package of gum or a favorite candy bar in their sweatshirt pocket

Tell them you’re on their side

Do one of their chores for them

Give them extra video game time – for no reason

Sit down and play a video game with them

Tell them you love them

Express appreciate for the character they’re developing

Offer to help them with homework

Give them a hug

Make their favorite meal – and don’t put a limit on extra helpings!

Exercise with them – bike, run, lift weights

Invite them to join you on an errand and stop for coffee or ice cream while you’re out

Let them know you’re thankful they’re part of your family

Listen – really stop and pay attention – to their chatter; make eye contact and don’t zone out even if the hyper-detailed narrative of the last drama that went down at school or the latest video game hero they won makes you want to pull your hair out!

Compliment their appearance

Let them choose the activity, movie, or game for family night

Play with them – shoot hoops, kick goals, join 4-square, jump on the trampoline, ping pong, corn hole, catch . . .

Tell them you’re praying for them – I’ve shared 7 Scriptures to pray for your child’s faithYou can also find 7 positive ways to pray for your middle schooler at MelanieRedd.com

Ask them how you can pray for them

Give them extra snacks – without waiting for them to ask!

Let them stay up later than normal – be available to chat or listen if called for

Ask what they think about a certain topic – news event, latest movie, recent book, local

Have a wrestling or tickle match

Recognize their effort or improvement in a particular area

Offer to pick up a friend and let them hang out at your house

Ask them to forgive you

. . .

Obviously, most of these ideas are not gender specific. However, some (particularly the examples) do tend to be boy-centric, because . . . my middle schoolers are boys! If you’re blessed with middle school age girls (mine won’t arrive there for another 5-6 years – phew!), adjust as appropriate.


What will you do to make your middle schooler’s day?


You might also like: Will You Win Your Your Child’s Heart or Lose It?


Shared at: Grace & Truth, Literacy Musing Monday,


  1. Abi, I loved this post. You shared very practical ideas on showing love to others. I picked this post as my favorite for the week on the #LMMLInkup.

  2. These are great ideas for parents and grandparents alike!

  3. What a wonderful and practical list, Abi! I had to pass it along for other parents to enjoy, as well.

  4. I love this list! Shared on Pinterest and Facebook.

    • So glad, Joanne. It’s good to have lists to refer to when our brains just can’t think of anything in the moment, huh? Thanks for sharing.

  5. I love Little Earthling Blog! How cool that you mentioned her post!

    These are fabulous suggestions Abi! There are so many “little: things that we can do but they all add up (and mean a lot to our children).

    Thanks for sharing. I’m pinning this to my PARENTING board.

    Wishing you a lovely day.

    • Yes, I don’t get to read Little Earthling often, but I always love it when I do. Thanks for pinning. Have a great week loving on your girls. 🙂

  6. Such a great list of ideas, Abi! I love them. Sharing on Pinterest. Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

  7. Great ideas, Abi! They seemed to have the common denominator of having some light-hearted, spontaneous fun with them. I really appreciated reading them. I trust you received my recent emails. Love you, friend and “Happy Resurrection Weekend!” Love to the family from us! xoxo

    • Yes, not taking everything too seriously can be a real challenge! I sometimes have to remind myself to smile at them too. 🙂

  8. Great suggestions!

  9. annakpayne says:

    Thank you for listing these suggestions.


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