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Do You Need A Fresh Perspective, Mom?

Take your child on a date and ask them these 23 questions for a kid's perspective on your parenting.


“Mom, you is SO crazy!” exclaimed my oldest daughter (age 5 1/2) as she came to the table for supper one night recently.

Slightly bemused and a little perplexed, my husband asked, “Why do you say that?”

“Because this food looks really yummy!” she stated, as though he was crazy for not having noticed himself.


Sometimes we know exactly what our kids think of us.

Some days I’m a “jerk” and “the worst parent ever.” Of course I don’t like hearing that. (Neither do they get away with voicing their opinions with such disrespect.) I do try to remember that these outbursts usually mean I’m sticking to my guns and someone’s frustrated that they can’t knock ’em out of my hand!

Other days  I’m “the best mom in the world.” I probably just said, “yes,” to a request they thought I’d deny!

Some days I’m all of those things before lunch! This mom job is not for the faint-hearted. It can be discouraging. I don’t always remember the cute things or look for the humor in it. Sometimes I need a fresh look at who I am.


Do you need a fresh perspective on what your kids think about you?

These mom questions will give you that. The answers will encourage you, make you laugh and cry, and remind you that they do see what often seems unnoticed. Some will probably reveal areas you can improve to better love and serve your kids.


Mom Interview: Questions for A Fresh Perspective

I do not take credit for coming up with this idea. Apparently the questions have been making rounds within the web, though I only became aware of them recently. Enjoy! A printable copy is included at the end.

1. What is something I always say to you?

2. What makes me happy?

3. What makes me sad?

4. How do I make you laugh?

5. What was I like as a child?

6. How old am I?

7. How tall am I?

8. What is my favorite thing to do?

9. What do I do when you’re not around?

10. If I become famous, what will it be for?

11. What am I really good at?

12. What am I not very good at?

13. What do I do for a job?

14. What is my favorite food?

15. What makes you proud of me?

16. If I were a character, who would I be?

17. What do we enjoy doing together?

18. How are we the same?

19. How are we different?

20. How do you know I love you?

21. What do I like most about dad?

22. Where is my favorite place to go?

23. How old was I when you were born?


Here’s a printable copy:

23 Questions to Ask Your Child page 1

23 Questions to Ask Your Child page 2


Make a date with your child (I’m going to have to make 5!) and find out what they really think of you. Go out for lunch together or just let them stay up a little later than usual. Relax and have fun. You’ll be glad you did.


Have you ever asked your kids these questions before? Will you?


For more insight into your child’s heart, consider 31 Heart-Revealing Questions to Ask Your Kids.

More encouragement for your mom heart: When You Feel Like an Inadequate Mother


Shared at: The Deliberate MomNourishing Joy, Modest Monday, Art of Homemaking Monday, Inspire Me Monday, Tuesday Talk, Waiting on Wednesday, Women With Intention, Coffee & Conversation, Thoughtful Thursday, Thriving Thursday and Saturday Soiree.


  1. Asked my 4 year old “What do I do when you’re not around?” She replied. “You just be pouting because you miss me”

  2. This is really a great list of questions. I am going to print it out and start asking my 3-year old some of these questions as well! I am sure it will open up all kinds of conversation topics!

    • Asking one or two now and then as a good conversation starter rather than trying to do a whole interview at one time is a great idea, Sara. I think that would’ve worked better with my girls. Merry Christmas!

  3. I used to do interviews like this on my girls’ birthdays but forgot last year. Maybe I should do them in the new year so I don’t forget!

    Great questions!

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.

  4. These are great questions for gaining perspective and starting conversations 🙂

  5. Definitely trying this with my husband and kids. 😉 Thanks for sharing it, Abi.

  6. What a great idea!
    I love the “how are we same/different” questions. Definitely going to ask my kids some of these.

  7. I asked my daughter these questions and got some really sweet and funny answers 🙂

  8. SO true! And, some times the answers aren’t what we want to hear but need to hear! Thank you for sharing at Waiting on…Wednesday! Hope to have you back tomorrow!

  9. These would be great! My younger two are too young, but my oldest (almost 4) could answer these. I bet her answers would be funny! This is such a great idea! Thanks for sharing this with us for Tuesday Talk – I’m going to feature it! -Jess
    Sweet Little Ones

  10. good questions for dinner conversation too!! Thanks for sharing at our FB Share Day!

    • Yes, dinner-time would be a good time to get some of these thoughts. Always interesting to know how the kids see things differently than we do.

  11. These questions look more thoughtful than the standard Mother’s Day/ Father’s Day ones I’ve seen. I think I’ll have to make a few interview appointments with my kids too!

  12. I can’t wait to do this with my oldest daughter. It’ll be a lot of fun to hear what her answers are! Visiting from While I’m Waiting


  13. elizabeth959803 says:

    Great ideas, Abi! I am treasuring time with my tween and teen while we are on break from questions such as, “Do you need me to quiz you on your biology notes while you eat breakfast?” so your queries will be enjoyable alternatives! 🙂

    • Definitely nice to have a break from, “Did you finish your schoolwork” days! Glad you visited Elizabeth. Enjoy the time with your kids.

  14. Kelsey Ferguson says:

    I love this idea! My 3-year-old has started saying, “Momma, you too silly.” He especially likes to say this when I’m telling him something he doesn’t want to hear. The first time he said it I couldn’t help but crack up, and now I’ve created a you-too-silly monster! I’m looking forward to asking his silly self some of thee questions!

    Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    • I have definitely been in that place, Kelsey! So hard not to laugh at some of the things our kids say or do, and then they think it’s OK to repeat. Guess that means we ought to start laughing and responding positively more often to what we do want to encourage. 🙂 Glad you visited today.

  15. What a fun questionnaire! Thanks for sharing, Abi.


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