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A Practical Plan for Mastering Mommy Anger

Would anyone else like to raise your hand and say you didn’t struggle with anger . . . until you became a mom? Don’t be afraid to admit it; I’m right with you!

So, we’ve admitted the truth. Now what are we going to do about it?

A) Get annoyed (um, yeah, that’s related to anger – ugh!) that these little people “bring out the worst in us.” Yup, shift the blame.


B) Realize that they’ve helped dredge up some sin that needs attending to – couldn’t come out if it wasn’t in there to start with, right? Oh, yes, take responsibility!

So, now that your kids have afforded you a wonderful opportunity to take care of a problem you didn’t know you had, you need some tools to get the job done.


Do your kids ever make you angry? You're not alone and there is hope for change. Here's a practical plan you can follow for mastering mommy anger today.


That’s where my friend, Ruthie, comes in. Ruthie has become one of my favorite online mommy mentors. She blogs at RearReleaseRegroup.com and is the founder of the popular MTO (“Mom Time Out”) Facebook group. She’s reared her own brood, released them out into the world and is now in the process of regrouping. Maybe you could have figured that all out on your own . . . I won’t tell you how long I stared at the name before I put it all together!

Anyway, Ruthie may have graduated from the most intense years of child rearing, but she remembers well what it’s like to be in the trenches. And she knows how easy it is to get blindsided by anger and feel trapped in an emotion you’re not sure how to handle.

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That’s why she wrote Count to Nine: 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger.

This valuable resource is packed full of biblical exhortation, heartfelt hope and simple action plans that will set you up to successfully tackle and tame your temper.

9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration


Ruthie is full of encouraging words. I’m so glad she’s agreed to answer a few questions about her book on mastering mommy anger today.


Alright, Ruthie . . .

Let’s talk about mastering mommy anger.

Tell us why you’re so passionate about the topic of anger. Why is it so important for us moms to get a handle on it?

Anger seems to be a hot topic with moms these days. But anger has been a struggle for moms for years – I think we’re just now ready to own up to it! I myself struggled with letting my anger turn to wrath on many a day during the rearing years. I felt badly, aware of my wrong behavior, yet many times I struggled again and again. But I realized that it’s important to get a handle on anger-gone-wrong because God has a way of escape that often times we’re not tapping into! We excuse ourselves, thinking, “this is just too hard,” when God is right there going before us, waiting for us to access His strength!  Once I began accessing His strength, He provided, every step of the way!

What’s the significance of the word “liberating” that you chose to describe the steps in your book.

I chose the word “liberating” because I’ve experienced first-hand freedom from anger gone wrong through using these steps myself (after all, I have a two-year-old grandson I babysit, so this method gets tested quite regularly!). As I pass these steps on to other moms, they too are finding liberty through Christ!

Explain why Scripture and prayer such an integral part of your plan for tackling anger.

Scripture and prayer are the two most powerful tools we have as believers. God’s Word and prayer give strength to any believer in any sin-struggle. There is simply no other way to gain control and turn the crazy train around without implementing these God-given tools. I’ve personally used Scripture prayer as a means to gain victory over sin in other areas of my life, so I KNOW it works!

She opens her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.


At one point in your book you mention that getting control of our anger can stretch our faith. How do you think that is?

We moms struggle to believe that it’s even possible to gain control of the temper when we’re caught up in the moment. It’s super hard to stop that train and re-route. Seemingly impossible. That’s where faith comes in. Christ said in Matthew 19:26 that “With God, ALL things are possible.” He gives His Word and prayer, and promises that if we seek Him first, He will do the impossible. It is Christ’s utmost desire to help us overcome sin. And if we believe, by faith, and claim Scripture and prayer, it WILL happen!

So, we follow these 9 steps and get rid of mommy anger once and for all! Is that how it works?

Don’t I wish!!  I think that’s the BIG factor, Abi, that discourages moms from keeping on. They try for a while, get the upper hand, and then, BAM, something happens that flips our switch and we erupt all over our family. But it’s not a one-and-done deal.  No Ma’am. We must get back up off the floor, claim Christ’s forgiveness, and get back in there! Yes, it’s hard. Daily committing to this way of life.  But oh, so so worth it!
Okay, the million dollar question . . . what do you wish someone would have told you when you were struggling with your mommy anger?

Oh how I WISH I’d known that other mothers struggled just as much as I did! I was so embarrassed that I would never share with anyone. And keeping our sins to ourselves is the absolute BEST way to never overcome sin. I needed someone to keep me accountable and cheer me on! I needed this book, and I needed an accountability group!


None of us like to get angry, right? And we wish we could just keep cool and mommy on. And it’s not that easy. Well, as Ruthie says, “Don’t WISH for it; WORK for it.”

Purchase Count to Nine: 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger now and start mastering your mommy anger today.

Count to Nine: 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger


And every purchase includes a beautiful journal too.

Count to Nine: 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger


If you struggle with mommy anger and frustration, please, take advantage of the Scripture pillars, “power-packed pillar prayers” and action plans in Count to Nine: 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Frustration and Anger to understand, address and manage your anger biblically. You’ll be glad you did!


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  1. I love this! I am enjoying Ruthie’s book – it has already made a huge difference in my parenting. The pillar scriptures are AMAZING! Plus the MTO group has been a wonderful place to be supported and encouraged in my parenting journey.

    Great interview.

    Thanks for sharing and blessings to both of you!

  2. What an awesome interview! Thank you, Abi & Ruthie! 🙂 <3

  3. Thank you for this, Abi! I appreciate all you’ve done to help spread the word about COUNT TO NINE, and also your input in MTO. You are one of my favorites too – I love your honesty as you grapple with how to best handle mom frustration and rear godly children!

    Rear Release Regroup – you’re not the only one to struggle with that one!!! (My husband at first hated the name – he struggled too! 🙂

    • Thanks, Ruthie. Exciting to see how God is using you to mentor others. Bravo on making from start to finish with such a big project – it’s sure to bless many for generations!

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