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The Most Valuable Family Discussion You Can Have

Are you remembering to include the most important topic in your family discussion? These questions can help get you and your kids started thinking about God’s involvement in your life every day.

Help your kids learn to see God at work by introducing these questions into your family discussion.

 

As parents we talk to our kids about a lot of things.

We fill their heads with information: character lessons, life skills, safety tips, history lessons, math facts, intriguing trivia . . .

And then we try to get information out of them: What did you eat for lunch? Who did you sit with? What do you want to be when you grow up? Where did you get that idea? Did you really just dip your brother’s toothbrush in the toilet?

We love to talk to our kids, to know what they’re thinking, to find out who they are. Okay, there are some conversations that are no fun at all. And we don’t really want their thoughts on current chore requirements or what’s being served for dinner!

Still, it is fun to get their pint-sized perspective on our parenting now and then. And non-intimidating questions are a great way to get a little glimpse inside their hearts from day to day.

Those two links are the most popular posts here at Joy In My Kitchen. I think that indicates that we parents want to understand our kids. To know the right questions to ask. The questions on those lists are great. They encompass an important part of being an interactive parent.

 

But I’d like to suggest that there’s an even more important question we can be asking. A more valuable family discussion that could be taking place every day.

Psalm 145:4 says,

“One generation shall praise Your works to another, and shall declare Your mighty acts.”

We need to be talking to our kids about the ways we see God at work in the world around us and in our daily lives. And we should ask them where they’ve recognized God’s presence and power.

Psalm 33:5 states,

“The earth is full of the lovingkindness of the Lord.”

Even in the midst of horrific world events, significant personal trial and miserable days in our own homes, God is at work! God’s plans have not been thwarted. God’s character remains consistent. God is doing good things in, through and for His people ALL the time.

Count on it.

Anticipate it.

Look for it.

Let’s include God in our family discussion.

 

I’m not just talking about reading Bible story books (see a list of our favorites for all ages here).

And I don’t mean establishing a family Bible time, though I’ve got 5 reasons to encourage you in the benefits of that as well!

We need to make a point of talking with our families about the ways God is at work in our own hearts and in the world around us today.

In Deuteronomy 6:7 Moses gives this instruction about the words and works of God:

“You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”

Remembering to talk about this everyday when it’s not yet a habit may seem daunting. Pick one day a week to start – Sunday lunch, Thursday supper? Put a reminder on your calendar or in your phone. The more you do talk about our amazing God, the more you’ll want to talk about Him. Pretty soon you won’t need that reminder anymore!

Questions to Get Your Family Discussion Going

If you’re not used to talking about these things it may feel or sound awkward at first. That’s okay! Keep at it until becomes second nature. Try these questions if you’re unsure how to start.

What has God done for you today?

What did God help you with today?

Have you received any answers to prayer today?

What have you seen God do for someone else today?

What happened today that reminded you of God’s character?

How have you see God’s faithfulness today?

Did you notice anything amazing in God’s creation today?

How did you see God’s power displayed today?

 

I think about God a lot – I experience His lovingkindness and notice His mighty acts. I don’t always verbalize those things to my kids. I want that to change. I want them to be aware of and talk about God’s awesomeness on their own. They need to hear me do that first.

If you neglect to cover this topic in your family discussion, you're going to miss out on some of the most valuable lessons life has to offer.

Will you (or do you already) include God in your family discussion?

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Comments

  1. helen walderman says:

    Thank you so much! I am teaching a Sunday school class for women on these very topics.

  2. Elaine @MilitaryWifeAfterGod says:

    This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. It’s the little push I needed. I’ve been thinking about and praying about how to explain God to my 4 year old-more than just the Noah and David & Goliath stories. Thank you for this! Visiting from Christian Marriage & Motherhood FB group.

    • I’m so glad this helped you, Elaine. Bible stories have so much more to them than the characters and what they did! Every one demonstrates some aspect of God’s character, and God who did big things then with, for and through those men and women is still the same today . . . with and in and through us, in our time and our world. May you have many awesome conversations about God with your little one.

  3. Thank you for the question ideas! I hope to use these someday as my little one grows!

    • It’s neat to watch our kids’ minds develop and a privilege to help them come to know God’s character as well as His role in history and our own current time. Enjoy the journey.

  4. Yes, it is SO important that we follow the example of Deuteronomy 6:7 in our parenting! We talk a lot in our home school about God’s role in Creation and History, but these are great questions to ask my kids to get them to make it more personal.

    • Sometimes it’s amazing and other times quite amusing to hear the kids’ thoughts on these! And vital that they learn to think through events and ideas according to a godly world-view. Enjoy.

  5. The questions are terrific, Abi! Having a tangible resource like this is so helpful to moms in rearing their kids to be Christ-minded!

    • Thanks, Ruthie. Sure helps me to write things down so I can reference them to re-direct my own thinking and then share with the kids too!

  6. RecipestoNourish says:

    Thanks for sharing this with us at Savoring Saturdays linky party. Hope you’ll join us again today, have a great weekend!

  7. hollythewoo says:

    This is a fabulous post, Abi! I absolutely love these questions and asked them to my kids today at lunch. Thanks for sharing this with us at Grace & Truth. I will be featuring this post on Friday for our next round. 🙂

  8. This is something that we have been working on too. It is so important not to just think about how great God is and noticing Him working in our lives but actually verbalizing that too. Especially to our kids.

  9. I love this post, Abi. You’re exactly right – as parents there’s nothing more important than showing our children a God who is alive and active. I love the questions you suggested. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us at Grace & Truth!

  10. I love this! It is something so easily overlooked that can make such a big difference in whether kids see life through the lens of what God is doing! Your idea of intentionally scheduling the time in is especially helpful, because it really is so hard to work things like this in when first starting out. I know I make resolutions to do things like this and then let it slide all the time, so I definitely want to do something like that : )

    • Thanks for reading and taking time to leave an encouraging comment. It sure is helpful to have little reminders to implement the things we want to change. I hope taking time to notice God’s work in your life and the world around you encourages and strengthens your faith this year.

  11. elizabeth959803 says:

    Great dinner-table or minivan discussion questions, Abi! I love the whole spirit of this, because this sort of “talk about God when you walk along the road and sit down and stand up” Deuteronomy-type parenting is not what I grew up with. My parents, God bless and honor them, walked in the light they had at the time. But we did not have these kinds of conversations; God was a spoke on our wheel more than He was the hub. My husband and I have tried to be deliberate about weaving God into the fabric of our daily lives, and the kinds of questions you mention are a great way to do that. Thank you for sharing and inspiring…stopping by from Women With Intention!

  12. I love the questions! I think that talking about God throughout the day and pointing out the ways the Lord has touched our lives is a great way to spark meaningful conversations of faith with our kids. I’m going to ask my kids some of these questions. Thanks Abi!

  13. The Peaceful Haven says:

    You get a wholehearted Amen from me! Thanks for sharing these wonderful questions!

  14. Not just for the kids. I need to recognize God in all things, talk about Him and be grateful, remembering that even in the uncertain and frustrating times, He is with me and has a loving purpose for all of it!

  15. I love these questions! I need to write them down on sticky notes and put them somewhere obvious so that I get into the habit of asking them. Thank you so much for this important post. May God bless you!

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