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Weekly Date Night: You Can Make It Happen!

Would you like to have a weekly date night with the love of your life?  Even if you’re already married?  And have kids?

You can!

Would you like a weekly date night with the love of your life? Even if you're already married and have kids in the house? Here's how you can make it happen!

 

You don’t have to make extravagant plans, hire a babysitter or leave your house.  Those things are good (and you should do them every now and then), but don’t wait for those times to enjoy a date.

 

Five Principles For Establishing a Weekly Date Night

 

Pick a day and stick to it.

This may be the most important step to making date night happen every week.  Look at your family’s schedule and find the night (or other time of day) that’s typically free of other commitments.**  Put it on everyone’s calendar as “date night.”  Our date night is Tuesday.  Occasionally something comes up and we make a decision to switch to Wednesday for a week.  Usually, though, we schedule around date night.  Keeping your weekly date night consistent accomplishes a couple of things:

  1. It establishes a habit.  This will prevent it from slipping through the cracks when things get busy or you neglect to review the coming weeks’ schedule together.
  2. It provides assurance.  You and your husband will always know when you can count on time together even when a busy season prevents you from connecting well on a daily basis.

**If you don’t have a time like that, please evaluate the activities that pull you away from home.  Making time to enjoy your relationship as husband and wife is more important than some of those things.

Plan a meal that’s easy on you.

We’ve had an established weekly date night for years and I’ve just recently realized what a big difference this makes.  You’ll be more relaxed and able to focus on enjoying time with your husband if you’re not recovering from too much dinner prep.  You’ll also be able to fit in the next point and start your time together sooner if the clean up is simple.  Hint: If you usually leave the days’ dishes for after dinner, make a point of doing them before you even make dinner on date night.

Invest in the kids a little.

Here’s another thing we’ve only recently implemented.  It seems to help the kids submit more willingly to the earlier bed time we impose on date night.  Maybe giving them something special helps them realize we’re  not just shoving them out of our way.  Figure out what will most encourage your kids.  Here are two things we do. Sometimes its both, other times just one or the other (our pick, not theirs!)  All in all, they seem to be more settled at tuck-in time when we remember to do this.

  1. Serve dessert.  We don’t have dessert daily, so if I want to make something I try to plan it for Tuesday night.
  2. Read, chat or play a game before pajama time.  Keeping cleanup simple makes this easier, especially since bedtime comes earlier than usual.
Put the kids to bed early!

Even 1/2 an hour makes a difference.  It doesn’t have to be lights out until the usual time, but get them into their beds early.  We do our best to leave their bedrooms at 8:00 rather than 8:30 on date night, but the older ones still get to read until 9:00.  There are nights when they can’t seem to stay in their beds, so we have a plan.  Getting out of bed for no good reason equals an extra job in the morning.  If things really go haywire and the kids’ behavior interrupts the whole evening, we have date night again on Wednesday.

Think simple.

Your weekly date night doesn’t have to be elaborately planned.  The goal isn’t to “wow” each other with unusual activities.  Most people don’t have time to put crazy things together each week.  Every once in a while one of us might have a fun idea that is out the ordinary.  Usually, though, we pick from the following list of fairly common things, and we enjoy the time we set aside to do them together.

  • watch a movie
  • play a board game
  • read to each other
  • give a massage
  • share a cup of tea and talk
  • eat dessert together

 

If you don’t already have a weekly date night plan, talk it over with your husband.  Would he enjoy that habit? It might take a little time and thought to get it established, but your marriage is worth it.

 

Could you establish a weekly date night? If you already have one, what helps make it happen?

 

Photo credit for mugs: ginnerobot via photopin cc

This post is shared on Good Tips Tuesday , Thriving Thursdays, and Fellowship Fridays (at Equipping Godly Women),  Fellowship Fridays (at Christian Mommy Blogger), Marriage Monday, Monday Musings, Wedded Wednesday, Raising Homemakers, Art of Homemaking Mondays, Modest Monday and A Little R & R.

Comments

  1. Great ideas… and it is so important to date your spouse…. good for the marriage and great for the kids to see and learn from. 🙂

  2. p.s. I am pinning this 😉

  3. Great ideas! We usually do a Friday night cup of coffee on our patio together and that is really a blessing! Thanks for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays 🙂 I know this will bless many marriages!

  4. These are great suggestions. I think we excuse having a date night because our children are very young and we often have our evenings ‘child-free’. But i’m thinking we need to amend this… as it isn’t the children that tale us away from each other, just life in general. Thank you for the encouragement!

    • Glad this was an encouragement to you, Adelaide. You’re right, we can let all kinds of things take our time. Hope you and your husband plan in some special date time soon.

  5. katicbutler says:

    Loving this. We need definite HELP in this department. Thank you for keeping it simple and frugal…two musts for us! 🙂

    • Glad it was an encouragement, Kati. Hope you get some one-on-one time with your husband soon. (It might be hard to establish initially, but don’t give up!)

  6. Brittany at EquippingGodlyWomen.com says:

    We just recently started a “date night” of sorts and I love it! We go to a class at church. It’s great because there’s a commitment involved, so we really can’t miss unless we have something big come up. It’s a lot of fun.

  7. Hi Abi, I followed you over here from Equipping Godly Women. This is a great article and a real conviction for me. We really need to be purposeful in setting time aside to be with our spouses. It’s easy to get caught up in day to day things and let it slide. Thank you for the encouragement to make it a priority.

    • Glad you were encouraged, Erica. Hope you find some time this week to invest in your marriage and that it becomes a habit.

  8. Nice to meet you, Abi, through Thriving Thursdays! You have a delightful site, and I look forward to connecting here. Thank you for these suggestions and the encouragement to make date night a priority. My husband will be appreciative as well 🙂 Love these ideas!
    Blessings,
    Renee

  9. Great tips on frugal but fun date nights! It is so important to keep your intimacy strong when you a parents. Even if intimacy is cuddling on the couch while you watch a movie together.

    • Parenting takes a lot of time and effort. Its also important to put time and effort into our marriage. Thanks for visiting, Christie.

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